tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post116165750100005013..comments2024-03-24T22:24:11.549-07:00Comments on Rice Daddies: Two wrongs don't make a right but...what would YOU do?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1164454433302424232006-11-25T03:33:00.000-08:002006-11-25T03:33:00.000-08:00My philosophy is transcend when it's appropriate a...My philosophy is transcend when it's appropriate and make sure you win in street battles. In other words, I don't start fights but I make sure I win the ones that come to me if I can. Being more literal minded I probably would have said something along the lines of, "Don't project your cultural practices onto me, you a--h---. Incest is illegal in America."<BR/><BR/>If she had been an AmericanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1163532772931367302006-11-14T11:32:00.000-08:002006-11-14T11:32:00.000-08:00I realize this is an old post but...this is what h...I realize this is an old post but...<BR/>this is what happened w/ the nyc actress lady, who was in the news recently when she was murdered by a maintenance worker a floor below. a stupid fight escalated wtih attitudes on both sides, and then the guy hit her, thinking he knocked her out. at this point, he panicked and thought her already to be dead, but the point is...<BR/><BR/>you never know Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1162516486492217092006-11-02T17:14:00.000-08:002006-11-02T17:14:00.000-08:00I would have quietly walked away and later written...I would have quietly walked away and later written her a postcard that said sorry I upset you and by the way I am not Chinese but rather of Japanese heritage and then I would have hand delivered said letter to her occipital lobe.NinjaDadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09519575670499625033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1162397254644710282006-11-01T08:07:00.000-08:002006-11-01T08:07:00.000-08:00I would have called that bitch Ukrainian...or the ...I would have called that bitch Ukrainian...or the more Racist term, a Ukulele.Henrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16761756953188913137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1162393312905398882006-11-01T07:01:00.000-08:002006-11-01T07:01:00.000-08:00Woo that was interesting.In the heat of the moment...Woo that was interesting.<BR/><BR/>In the heat of the moment (and I'm white), I think I'd have done about what you did. I think the word 'Chinese' wasn't really the point, though; she was just trying to win the verbal war by brute force, not with any skill.KChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04831282354592302843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1162239110707666412006-10-30T12:11:00.000-08:002006-10-30T12:11:00.000-08:00Interesting. I have used what many would consider...Interesting. I have used what many would consider racist name calling simply to piss off the person with whom I was fighting. It's like upping the ante...start with F'ing a'hole and proceed from there.<BR/><BR/>I've been called a stupid, drunken mick...would I consider that racist? Dunno. Never gave it much thought. Guess it would depend on the source. <BR/><BR/>What you said, however, was aStevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11659696729706771552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1162214697697855712006-10-30T05:24:00.000-08:002006-10-30T05:24:00.000-08:00Larry,I'm not at all surprised when other immigran...Larry,<BR/><BR/>I'm not at all surprised when other immigrants or minorities are racist. First off, every immigrant group brings its own prejudices and chauvinisms from its native culture (every culture has them). Then, when you think about it, the whole world sees the US through the lens of majority-controlled mass media, which doesn't exactly give a fair and balanced view of what American Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1162009640323973602006-10-27T21:27:00.000-07:002006-10-27T21:27:00.000-07:00I'm with thisislarry. Since I probably would have...I'm with thisislarry. <BR/><BR/>Since I probably would have been tongue-tied because I never know how to retort to those things in the moment (although later on I can always think of a thousand things to say), I really admire your ability to actually say anything strong. <BR/><BR/>But yeah, racist would have been a better choice. <BR/><BR/>But yeah...drawing the line...I think you draw it wearAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161974973671952612006-10-27T11:49:00.000-07:002006-10-27T11:49:00.000-07:0010ft: great story! I can see this as a mastercard...10ft: great story! I can see this as a mastercard commercial:<BR/><BR/>Box of crackers at Duane Reade: $4.50<BR/><BR/>telling off that racist bitch: priceless.<BR/><BR/>OTOH interstesting thread: isnt it strange when other immigrants or minorities find it so easy to be racist? I remember being a kid and having some other minority kids call me racist slurs, it was kind of odd.thisislarryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04157349911656341561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161932712898581342006-10-27T00:05:00.000-07:002006-10-27T00:05:00.000-07:00A few years back, I was on line at a Duane Reade i...A few years back, I was on line at a Duane Reade in midtown waiting patiently for my turn at the register, when this middle aged white woman cuts line right in front of me.<BR/><BR/>Me: Excuse me, Ma'am. I was next in line.<BR/><BR/>Lady: [completely ignores me, despite the fact that I spoke clearly enough for the cashier to hear me and shrug helplessly.]<BR/><BR/>Me: [even louder] Excuse me! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161805760771143032006-10-25T12:49:00.000-07:002006-10-25T12:49:00.000-07:00If I was as smart and funny as MD, surely there co...If I was as smart and funny as MD, surely there could be a more humorous, learning and rewarding way to go about this, since (in retrospect) your response ruined your day.<BR/><BR/>Would I have done what you did? Of course, but then I wouldn't feel good about it afterwards. Plus,don't you worry the wench may have evil plans in the future? When the Peanut IS around? Maybe it's just a NYC thing andAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161789646476286502006-10-25T08:20:00.000-07:002006-10-25T08:20:00.000-07:00Ha - I was 8 and 1/2 months pregnant when I got in...Ha - I was 8 and 1/2 months pregnant when I got into a fight with a couple of Indians (from India), in front of a Babies'R Us no less. Long story short, they were being inconsiderate in their brand new BMW so we had an earlier altercation in our vehicles (lots of honking on my part - try being patient with a little being bouncing on your bladder 24/7). <BR/>As PN and I were crossing the parkingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161784461494261272006-10-25T06:54:00.000-07:002006-10-25T06:54:00.000-07:00From a strictly having-a-ready-comeback -at-the-ri...From a strictly having-a-ready-comeback -at-the-right-time standpoint, I'd give you an A- for Siberia.<BR/><BR/>In the future, should the need arise, I will add "racist" to the verbal mix.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161778887742616292006-10-25T05:21:00.000-07:002006-10-25T05:21:00.000-07:00To follow up on Larry's "WWHD?", isn't the real qu...To follow up on Larry's "WWHD?", isn't the real question "WWNDD?" (What would Ninja-Dad do?) ;)daddy in a strange landhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02838412669298860456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161762446295751732006-10-25T00:47:00.000-07:002006-10-25T00:47:00.000-07:00Oh man,Tough situation, but glad that you did say ...Oh man,<BR/>Tough situation, but glad that you did say something. I think sometimes people think that they can say whatever they want to Asians since we are stereotyped as being passive. I wonder if she would have talked to you like that if you were Caucasian or a big buff African American guy. My friends and I wonder about that sometimes when we get comments like that, and think that person Dr. Lo Sientohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14584641091570285263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161746588160442102006-10-24T20:23:00.000-07:002006-10-24T20:23:00.000-07:00Been there, done that. We are all human and fight ...Been there, done that. We are all human and fight back when pushed (verbal knockdowns). Don't worry about it, she started it. I think if we don't fight back in some situations, its like school yard bullying , just gets worse. <BR/>Take care, LinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161745114854185002006-10-24T19:58:00.000-07:002006-10-24T19:58:00.000-07:00I've been there, in high school during one year on...I've been there, in high school during one year on a regular basis, a group of boys called me almost every filthy racist Asian name you can think of when I would walk by...I would retaliate by yelling back that they were stupid, ignorant and white trash. I haven't encountered overt racism like that since those days, if I did I would probably let them know exactly what I thought of them.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03298099759296161682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161738236151948202006-10-24T18:03:00.000-07:002006-10-24T18:03:00.000-07:00wait a minute, did I come back to the wrong fricki...wait a minute, did I come back to the wrong frickin country?<BR/><BR/>MD, dude, yellow card, and you called yourself on it so good on you.<BR/><BR/>I cant believe almost everyone else is supporting MD for using Russians!?!<BR/><BR/>Is it really OK to say to ANYONE else: "I'm going to call the INS on you!" !?!?<BR/><BR/>What would I have done? Well, probably the same thing.<BR/><BR/>but what I thisislarryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04157349911656341561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161734383332778592006-10-24T16:59:00.000-07:002006-10-24T16:59:00.000-07:00It's hard to say what any of us would've done give...It's hard to say what any of us would've done given the circumstances, since I'm sure we've all said things in the heat of passion that we might not have said, or said differently afterwards.<BR/><BR/>But while I'm all for standing up for yourself, using a dis based on the threat of INS deportation feels a little...icky. Especially when one considers how often that line has been used against Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161715219900988512006-10-24T11:40:00.000-07:002006-10-24T11:40:00.000-07:00Ugh. I'm sorry that happened to you. I remember th...Ugh. I'm sorry that happened to you. I remember the first time I witnessed someone saying something racist to my husband, just feeling sort of ill for a long time afterward. We flipped them off and walked away. I think you do have to stand up and say something, but I agree that just calling her a racist probably would have been better.weigook saramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03312246589337379863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161712591185039362006-10-24T10:56:00.000-07:002006-10-24T10:56:00.000-07:00You should've taken the high road. Whoo. Okay, n...You should've taken the high road. Whoo. Okay, now that I've spouted the party line *guffaw* "deported to Siberia"...hoo, dang, you must've had an Excedrin headache after that one. My guess is that she didn't think you had a fierce furious command of the English language and she surely didn't expect you to wield it like a club to do battle. <BR/><BR/>In a similar situation, it really depends Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161709270726150732006-10-24T10:01:00.000-07:002006-10-24T10:01:00.000-07:00In situations like the one you describe, I also fi...In situations like the one you describe, I also find it hard to balance standing up for oneself and being the better person--though these two really do mean the same thing. I think you were right to stand up for yourself and I agree that using "racist" would've been good to call her out, but I'm not so sure she would've gotten the point. In an ideal world, we should all be able stand up for Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161708177478910582006-10-24T09:42:00.000-07:002006-10-24T09:42:00.000-07:00I'm glad you brought this up because it's a quanda...I'm glad you brought this up because it's a quandary I'm always struggling with. I've had to contend with A LOT of racial taunts growing up, which is why I might have thought I was going to be a Korean American Black Panther when I grew up, but alas, that's another story. I was always aashamed when I couldn't think of anything to say, or was too afraid to say anything back. And the thing I hated Sugarbreadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06207562110321594031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161705805586479932006-10-24T09:03:00.000-07:002006-10-24T09:03:00.000-07:00You did correct in calling her out, but I agree wi...You did correct in calling her out, but I agree with Superha that you should have substituted <BR/>"Russian" for "racist". I had a similar encounter almost 10 years ago when I was living in Boston. This caucasian lady in her 50s living in the same bldg would always bark orders at me as one would in a restaurant to busboys about how i should do this or that in the bldg that SHE lives in. After Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21651465.post-1161703085034844392006-10-24T08:18:00.000-07:002006-10-24T08:18:00.000-07:00You're a man after my own heart. Great comeback. I...You're a man after my own heart. Great comeback. I might have cut even lower. I posted something on my blog a few days ago about this. We live in the Florida panhandle, which is essentially the South. I have had my share of problematic people since we moved here a little over a year ago. Yeah, I stoop low, like you did with this bitch, quite frequently. And I ask myself, should I really have saidPukahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14281274575712381983noreply@blogger.com