Monday, May 14, 2007

Games/Sports does not Build Character, it REVEALS IT!

Sorry I've been MIA. My dad's has been having health issues and I've had issues with my son's baseball coach. The whole situation with my son's coach has been appalling and ate up all my time.

In short, in Little League all the Managers are volunteers. Our coach seemed very nice at first but knew very little about baseball so I offered to volunteer as an Asst. Coach (my work won't allow me to commit as a Manager.) If he was just inexperienced that's OK with me. But he turned out to be a complete control freak and what was worse was his inability to handle losing - he would be completely negative and blame the kids!

During this one game we started off losing and he was actually sulking in the dugout and gave up on the game. Then he's yelling at the ump's calls and cursing his own kid. And the coup'd grace was his pep talk to the kids was basically "you stunk!"

I decided I needed to talk to him about it in a calm manner later. His response was immediately, "I don't want any more confrontations with you. (What confrontation???) So maybe it's best you go back to the stands." Yeah, what an A-HOLE!

Afterwards I found out other parents heard his "pep" talk. While some were as appalled as I was, some idiot dads actually think it was good for their kids. Worse, I couldn't get enough parents interested enough to can him. Apathy at its best.

The whole episode reminded me of the old adage; "Sports doesn't build character, it reveals it." While this coach had a nice guy veneer he was a complete sociopath inside.

I believe sports are really great for kids, especially team sports. But as parents, we really need to watch who is in a position of influence with our kids and be extra extra wary. I've learned the hard way; you never know the character of any person, even an adult until their character is tested.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

i completely agree. i'm sorry the kiddo had to witness that kind of behaviour. (a few weeks ago, we went to a family-friendly fiesta event and some drunk, 30-something started yelling and cursing the shuttle driver when the bus filled up and he wasn't on it . . . everyone agreed: what a BUTTHEAD! i mean, real classy - in front of little kds and everything!!!)

maybe the cosch needs a little "pep" talk with your foot up his butt . . .

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